You've decided to get married.
The congregation of St Mary's are delighted to hear that you have decided to get married, and that you are interested in exploring the possibility of being married in our church. The information on this page should help give you an idea of what being married at St Mary’s will involve. Once you have read this, if you wish to explore being married at St Mary’s further, please contact our Rector.
We may be biased, but we think St Mary's is a beautiful Church in which to be married. THE FIRST THING you need to do, however, is to get in touch with the Rector. If you can, please try not to book a wedding reception venue until you know whether the church and the Rector are available for your chosen date.
People sometimes ask whether they can get married in church if they have been married before. The short answer is that a proportion of the people who get married in the Scottish Episcopal Church have been married before. The Rector can officiate at the marriage of couples where one or both have been married before with the consent of the bishop. The Rector will be very happy to speak you about this.
It is important to note that no-one can get married in Scotland without first dealing with the local Registrar. On the day of the wedding a couple need to produce a Marriage Schedule from the Registrar Service which is run by the local council. During the course of the service, the schedule will be completed by the Rector and the wedding party, and this then needs to be returned to the Registrar’s Office within three (3) days.
The marriage service itself is, of course, the focal point of the day and there is a lot of fun to be had in making it your own. For example, you can be inventive in your choice of appropriate music and hymns, readings, poetry and prayers. You may also want to involve friends or family in the service.
Weddings in the Scottish Episcopal Church tend not to be just done off the peg but are tailored to the pastoral need of couple who are getting married. For example, if the couple are parents, there may well be creative ways of involving the children on the big day.
Following a change in the canons of the Scottish Episcopal Church same sex marriages may be conducted in church on an 'opt-in' basis for Congregations and Clergy. Following on from this, in March 2018, after prayerful consideration and in response to pastoral need, St Mary's Vestry took the decision to fully 'opt-in' to this change. The Rector is licensed to conduct all marriages.
We wish you every joy and blessing as you prepare for this new step on the journey through life together.
Some questions you may be thinking about:
Do I have to go to church to have my wedding at St Mary's?
No, every couple will be responded to based on pastoral need.
Can I have music?
Yes. We have a very fine organ and Organist(s) at St Mary's. There will generally be an additional fee for this, currently set by the Federation of Scottish Organists at £80.00.
However video recording your service would incur an extra expense either personal or professional and you will need to discuss this with the rector.
How much does it cost?
Generally the wedding fee, for the use of the Church, is £424.00, however there may be significant reductions for particular circumstances e.g. low income. This can be discussed, in confidence, with the rector.
Where can I get more information?
It would be advisable to read this leaflet, produced by The National Records of Scotland’s Marriage and Civil Partnership section, which should answer most, if not all of your questions. But please to also speak to the Rector if you are unsure.